"What is your fascination with the "underbelly" of life?"
-from a play about a directionless gay man feeling his way through life-
It's impossible finding people willing to listen to destructive criticism (my style of debating). Finding that any show of weakness on my part is seen as a vice, not a virtue. Finding people willing to have a honest debate. Finding people willing to even try imagining walking in someone else shoes.
Even when I share information about myself, information most people would not share, an attempt to lower their defensive posturing, it ends up being used against me. They think I'm being self depreciating, have low self esteem, when I'm actually trying to get them to come down off their pedestal. It ends up with me kicking the pedestal out from under them eventually, and my testamonial use against me.
I'm about ready to give up. Nothing but a lose/lose situation for me.
Had a dream once, that I was playing a game of Tug-a-War....trying to pull eveyone to the left, only to fall down and get run over by a stampeed. After standing back up, dusting myself off, found everyone to my left......far, far left. That's right! Just me! As far right as one can get! You couldn't find a beach front property with a better ocean view. Too bad I didn't get to use it much before the tsunami hit!
That will never happen, but I could move to the right of everyone, politically. Be the one to profiting from selfishness while benefiting from the blood, sweat, and tears of other.
I wonder how far I could go before they complained?
Not far I'm sure.
HYPOCRITES AIN"T THEY!
Be fun to pity them for a change!
em·pa·thy
[em-puh-thee]
–noun
1.the intellectual identification with or vicarious experiencing of the feelings, thoughts, or attitudes of another.
2.the imaginative ascribing to an object, as a natural object or work of art, feelings or attitudes present in oneself: By means of empathy, a great painting becomes a mirror of the self.
—Synonyms
1. concord, understanding, rapport, affinity.Sympathy, compassion, pity, empathy all denote the tendency, practice, or capacity to share in the feelings of others, especially their distress, sorrow, or unfulfilled desires. Sympathy is the broadest of these terms, signifying a general kinship with another's feelings, no matter of what kind: in sympathy with her yearning for peace and freedom; to extend sympathy to the bereaved. Compassion implies a deep sympathy for the sorrows or troubles of another coupled to a powerful urge to alleviate the pain or distress or to remove its source: to show compassion for homeless refugees. Pity usually suggests a kindly, but sometimes condescending, sorrow aroused by the suffering or ill fortune of others, often leading to a show of mercy: tears of pity for war casualties; to have pity on a thief driven by hunger. Empathy most often refers to a vicarious participation in the emotions, ideas, or opinions of others, the ability to imagine oneself in the condition or predicament of another: empathy with those striving to improve their lives; to feel empathy with Hamlet as one watches the play.
Dictionary.com Unabridged
Based on the Random House Dictionary, © Random House, Inc. 2010.
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