PROPOSITION 8 WITH .....

Orange Marmalade

"Oh look!  We're going to have a wedding!"

I couldn't believe the look Tom gave me, thought it terrible that I added, "Or a commitment ceremony!" She never once acknowledge the fact that he was walking a few steps behind us every where we went that day. He even gave her a jar of his homemade orange marmalade! Can't help but wonder what Mom did with it?

"There is someone I want you to meet."

We had just entered the rose garden section at Atlanta's Botanical Garden when my mom got excited at the sight of people setting up chairs and decorating the gazebo. Funny coincidence, as it was kinda the reason I waited until Mom's plane landed; why so anxious about this visit.  

Charlie Anderson: “Do you like her?”

Lt. Sam: “Well, I just said I…”

Charlie Anderson: “No, no. You just said you loved her. There’s some difference between lovin’ and likin’. When I married Jennie’s mother, I-I didn’t love her – I liked her… I liked her a lot. I liked Martha for at least three years after we were married and then one day it just dawned on me I loved her. I still do… still do. You see, Sam, when you love a woman without likin’ her, the night can be long and cold, and contempt comes up with the sun.”

 

At 37, finally had someone to call my own. 

Don't think anyone, Tom included, understood the significant of this moment.  It was the first and only time I have ever wanted to introduce anyone to my family.  My two parallel worlds were on a collision course.  The only unknown variable was the angle of impact.  The uncertainty of the outcome; either one of the them!

Habits are hard to break!

Tom's view on relationships was about as traditional (conservative) as a gay man's could get.  Was always picking a fight with me, about me; making me out to be the bad guy.  Would rant and rave; with his friends taking his side, as well as some of mine.

Didn't let it faze me. Made it quite clear on our second date: I don't follow conventional rules.  Being the non-traditional one, felt it only fair to be patient with him, give him time to come around to a different way of thinking, some room to fuss without me getting angry.... adding to the problem.  I could see he was trying. 

Although he had been out of the closet longer than me, I was the one who had never been in a relationship.  Let's be realistic, even married straight men can't keep their dicks in their pants.  He once told a mutual acquaintance, "never met someone as sexually uninhibited!"  It's not something I asked to be; just worked out that way over time.  Then along came Tom.

Take it or leave it.

What was so frustrating; was always the same argument, monogamy!  I knew better.  If men are pigs, then what we got here, a relationship between two men, gonna be a pig farm.  Even Tom admitted he could only be ninety percent monogamous.  As I've compromised enough;  I stood my ground at eighty percent less.  The difference was his problem.

"I hope you fuck each other and give each other A.I.D.S.!" 

 

That one was easy to fix;  just introduced the two of them.

Jesus Fucking Christ.....all over ten percent less pork!

He knew what he was getting into.  I broke no promises.  Made it possible for him not to break a promise he never would of kept.

To make a long story shorter, Tom's history.  "Although the best three years of my life, had I a crystal ball, would not have wanted them had I known it wasn't to last."  Said this to Tom couple of years later, our paths having crossed. Guess the point trying to make; not until after you experience the intimacy, will you truly understand the difference between being alone and being lonely.

Could never be in a relationship with someone I wasn't attracted to.  That point aside, sex is over rated.  More hormonal for men, instrument of survival with women; with attention definitely being addictive.

Anyway, whoever he's with in New York, I wish him well.  Never had reasons to believe he lied to me.  At least he did fight....... proof enough to believe genuine.

"You gotta know how to fight and you gotta know how to fuck," Tom once said. 

Fighting wasn't so bad after all.



***

"God created Adam and Eve! Not Adam and Steve!"

Someone did!

"DIDN'T HAVE A CHOICE.....YET!"


"Woman! You're out of order!"
 " ADAM,"


(bitched slapped)!
"...then Eve."


Ever wonder why? 
Maybe God wasn't a "real" man!



I can't help but laugh when I hear that homosexuality is a choice.  Certainly sounds like straights are having a tough time getting along with their correct choices.  They certainly spend more time with friends instead of their spouses.

Proposition 8 closing arguments to begin in San Francisco - latimes.com

Jeff Zarrillo, who came to court with his partner, Paul Katami, said: "All we're asking the court to do is make sure we're protected under our Constitution like everyone is supposed to be."

But attorneys for the Alliance Defense Fund, which supports Proposition 8's ban on same-sex marriage, argued in front of the courthouse that allowing same-sex marriage would be an "extreme interpretation of the Constitution."

"The focus for it is whether we still live in a democracy," said Austin R. Nimocks, senior legal counsel for the group, "whether a single judge is going to trump the voices of over 7 million Californians who heard both sides of the debate and cast their votes accordingly."

The paragraph in red....

then what's the point of having a body of government that is not elected and gets to serve for life?

And this comes from the same party that thinks we've strayed from The Constitution. 

JesusFUCKINGChrist! 

Compassionate conservatism

is what killed him!

And that was democracy....in it's 100% pure form.....briefly!