What We Can Learn from the Schwarzenegger-Shriver Split – TIME Healthland

What We Can Learn from the Schwarzenegger-Shriver Split – TIME Healthland: "This is particularly true for wives, says Steve Stosny, therapist and author of Love Without Hurt. 'The husband typically withdraws from the grieving or ailing wife, making her feel isolated in a time of vulnerability,' he says. 'Once she recovers on her own, she sees no point to the relationship where the man has just proven to her that he won't be there for her when she most needs him.'
As a rule, men prefer to deal with stress differently, in isolation. Sharing it makes them feel inadequate as protectors, as, says Stosny, does a wife's long-term grief. 'Men in general cannot bear to see their wives distressed or depressed, especially when it goes on for a while,' he says. 'They can handle short-term, acute problems where they can respond like heroes, but over the long haul, they are not so good at nursing.'"